Youth Talk: What does the Bible say about DATING? | BLOG OF DAN
Looking for a completely countercultural path to marriage? Here's how to apply God's Word to dating, finding a spouse and getting married. When we're dating, marriage should indeed be at the forefront of our minds. The two partners in a marriage must love each other in the sense of . but they should be developing their spiritual maturity through regular Bible study and prayer. Couples should especially study biblical love as found in 1 Corinthians 13 and No date for the wedding should be set until numerous marital.
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Dating is an unbiblical method crafted by the world with no boundaries or ethics with the following assumed rules and values: Two people can mutually claim to be "boyfriend and girlfriend" if they are physically attracted to one another and this is the litmus test have a crush and claim each other for themselves in a special relationship. There are no boundaries or ethics in this type of relationship.
Thus, what initially starts off as French kissing quickly accelerates to petting, fondling, and then full-blown sexual intimacy. Although they are committed to one another as "boyfriend and girlfriend" they most often end their relationship after several months when one "feels a crush" for someone else. Thus, the relationship ends with at least one of the individuals feeling devastated and wounded especially because of soul ties that were created from sexual intimacy.
Get Spirit-filled content delivered right to your inbox! Click here to subscribe to our newsletter. Although the above three points are generalizations, they are true depictions of most cases regarding dating; its devastating results on the human soul cannot be fully measured! Even worse, the double-mindedness that results from numerous sexual encounters with various people carries into future relationships and even marriage.
This is because of unhealthy soul ties that have been developed, increasing the chances one's marriage will end in adultery and divorce, which drags down children and creates generational curses due to family fragmentation.
It is amazing that most churches and youth groups do not speak about this in their discipleship processes! Every pastor should have church guidelines that include boundaries for how their youth groups should be conducted. Every youth pastor should be trained on the difference between the worldly concept of dating and the biblical concept of courtship. Dating is revolutionized if the following guidelines are followed: Dating should only take place in the context of having an accompanying chaperone with young couples.
Or, only group dating should be encouraged. Groups can go to a movie or have an outing, or go for dinner so that two people can sit together and get to know one another in the safety of other trusted believers. Dating should not be encouraged for anyone under a certain age. I would say at least 18 although others would say Dating should not involve any physical contact.
Even something as harmless as a hug can lead to petting, which will then lead to a sexual encounter. Youth groups should be taught that believers should not to commit themselves to anyone God hasn't clearly indicated will eventually be their spouse.
This is the only way to avoid soul ties through sexual intimacy. Also, parents, pastors, or trusted mature people should all be part of the process of discerning the will of God to counter the blindness that comes when feeling in love.
Youth should be taught to have greater criteria beyond physically attraction. They should be taught what to look for in a lifelong partner: People should be taught to back off and not run to a person to whom they are attracted. This is to give themselves enough time to pray, seek counsel, and hear from God about the other person before they fall hopelessly in love and reach the point where their heart has already made a choice to be with the other person—whether it be the will of God or not!
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Youth should make chastity vows before they enter high school. With these vows they should pledge to their parents before God they will not give their bodies over unless they are married to the other person.
Courtship Although the Bible does not lay out specifics regarding courtship, since some of the biblical marriages were arranged by families for example, the Old Testament patriarch Isaac and his wife Rebecca were brought together supernaturally by God with the order of Abrahamwhen we piece together all the principles of Scripture we have a good plan for courtship.
Courtship based on the biblical model of love, romance, sacrifice, dignity, and covenant implies the following about how two people could begin a process that may eventually lead to marriage: Pre-Courtship Stage A person should not even begin to look for a mate unless they are adequately prepared for the responsibilities of marriage and family, and are themselves emotionally healthy and spiritually mature When two emotionally needy people get together in marriage it is usually a disaster.
Go on group dates to get to know the other person or work with them in some meaningful innocuous way. This will enable the development of a deep friendship to help discern the will of God before beginning the process of committing to each other more formally.
Part of discerning the will of God is judging whether or not the other person meets the biblical criteria and qualifications of being a good mate, being able to raise children, and being a family leader. Attraction should never be only physical. Based on 1 Thessalonians 5: Jesus says that the right way is with the aim of marriage and with absolute purity.
Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires. They are not to be done before the proper time. Joshua Harris has said that: It gets you from A to B quicker than walking.
But driving through a playground full of small children is not a good thing. A good thing at the wrong time is a wrong thing. Or say I said to Harrizon my son who is 4you can drive this car.
Dating done right is a good thing at the wrong time is a wrong thing. So when is the right time to date? If the purpose of dating is marriage, the question you need to ask yourself is this: Am I ready to get married? Am I ready for this commitment? Could I support a family? Now this kind of thinking is different from that out in the world.
Also, there are lots of benefits of not going out with someone.
Paul in 1 Corinthians 7 speaks about the time and energy that married people spend on caring for and nurturing each other, single people can spend serving God. You will have lots of time to spend getting to know lots of different people. There is a right person to date and a wrong person to date Leaving aside the basics such as they need to be of the opposite sex and issues of compatibility.
Something else the Bible is crystal clear on is that a Christian is only to date and marry another Christian. But if her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes, but he must belong to the Lord. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?